Writing challenges us in many ways. It can be frustrating, right? It can also be a real source of joy and accomplishment. So, why do we let writing frustrate us? We know that it’s something we love to do. We know that we feel great when we’ve finally written “The End” on a long project, or we’ve finished up that last round of editing—and yet, it still frustrates us. Our old friend self-doubt stops by for a visit and always overstays its welcome. Why do you think that is? We are so excited for the projects we start, and then the doubt crawls in. “What if I get rejected?” “I’m probably not talented enough to get this published.” Does any of that sound familiar? That is your mindset taking hold of your actions.
Mindset affects every aspect of your life, even if you don’t recognize it. A positive mindset leads to action! When you approach anything—life, work, or hobbies—with a positive mindset, you are setting yourself up for success! Let’s define that so we are all on the same page. Your mindset is the way that you view the world around you as well as the way you view yourself. Ask yourself, “Am I a cynical person or a positive person?” “Do I ooze confidence or do I hide my true self from the world?” “Do I finish the writing projects that I start or do they get filed away for no one to see?” Your answers to those questions are a direct result of your mindset—but good news! You’ve just taken the first step to developing a positive mindset, and that first step is self-awareness.
With any change you wish to make in your life, you have to start with identifying the problem areas. So those questions you just answered are a great insight into where your mindset is currently. If you answered negatively across the board, there’s a good chance that your mindset is actually holding you back from completing your projects. Writers typically struggle with self doubt so, don’t worry, you most certainly are not alone!
Once you’ve developed a positive mindset, then self-doubt starts to subside to make room for your newly cultivated confidence. Changing that mindset isn’t always easy, is it? Some of us acknowledge the negative mindset and try to change it for years with no results. Sometimes we say it’s too hard or, “That’s just the way I am, there’s no changing it.” Yes, every one of us is different, but you know that those are just excuses to ignore the problem. If you’re fortunate enough to be aware of flaws in your character or mindset, then the only thing that’s holding you back from changing it is the truth.
You have to be brutally honest with yourself. Be critical and accept the flaws you have. Don’t just focus on surface issues like, “I wish my diet was better,” or “I’m unhappy with the state of my living room.” Dig deep and be honest about the real insecurities you live with and ignore. Accept that you may be insecure about your image. Accept that you may be afraid of the judgment of others. Those real truths about who you are at your core will help you resolve those deep issues. Everybody has insecurities, and most of us developed coping mechanisms early on to offset them so we can lead a happy life with those issues tucked neatly in a folder, that’s inside a box, that sits in the back of our closet where we never have to look at them. Problem solved, right? … Not a chance!
These are the issues that we must address. These are the issues that influence our mindset, which in turn influences us to act according to the way we see the world or ourselves. If you are living with insecurities, chances are you will never reach your full potential or even push yourself to see what that potential could be. Those insecurities will cause you to give up on projects and let fear win when new but challenging opportunities arise. Let’s start taking steps to build and sustain a positive mindset. After all, a positive mindset is a vehicle for powerful and confident action.
I can’t wait to see what 2019 will bring for us all! Join us next when we will talk about how to deal with those insecurities and get to writing!